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STFU.
Sometimes people have crutches. My mom has anxiety, OCD, and a couple other things. There are times when I have to yank something from her hand because she’s having an anxiety attack and she’s just fiddling with an object to make herself feel better instead of addressing the problem. I’ve hidden cleaning tools so she would stop cleaning because she would clean instead of dealing with it. I’ve broken the printer so she would stop printing useless documents to help soothe her anxiety instead of having faith (that last one was because she was making me run out of ink).

I’m a behavioral therapist for kids with autism. I constantly have to take items away from kids. Lots of reasons for this, one of them is because they’re “stimming” with it.

My friend has a little brother who is a paraplegic. The little brother hides inside his hood and hides away from people. My friend had to cut the hood from his sweatshirts and bought him clothes he couldn’t hide in.

Are you seeing my point? That tablet Peridot had wasn’t a unique item, it isn’t like a wheelchair. It’s an item she’s using to avoid her issues and not face them. She was hiding behind it, like my mom, like my clients, like my friend’s little brother.

Stop bitching.

As someone who has had to do what Amethyst did, shut the fuck up! It’s not easy doing what needs to be done. I will say Ame kind of was harsh but in my line of work, you need to be harsh. You need to lay down the law. Ame did what peridot needed her to do.

There’s a reason why the Steven Universe fandom is the shittiest one out there. Most of y'all ain’t black, ain’t LGBTQ+. y'all ain’t disabled or someone who has to help the disabled.

Stop speaking for those of us who are.

You are not helping.

You are all insulting my mom by talking about disabilities.

Shut up.

Stop and think about it for one goddamned minute that maybe- just maybe- things are a little more complicated than you think. Maybe you don’t know everything. Maybe you’re reading too far into things.

Or maybe this is all just a waste of time and I should delete this account…

I’m going to go hug my mom now, peace out, gems.

petition to erase my memory of ever having read this post.

This is why so many people diagnosed autistic as children become adults diagnosed as autistic with PTSD.

well this is literally the most disgusting post I’ve ever read, OP should stay the fuck away from all disabled people forever tbh

op needs to lose their medical license asap

I am disgusted

op litterally quit ur job and apologize to ur mamma for bein so shitty

amethyst isnt evil for doing what she did but it definitely wasnt what was best for peri. she addressed the situation the only way she knew how, because amethyst is not a behavioral therapist, she is not meant to know how to handle a situation like that, and in that case it helped because peri got it back afterwards anyways which apparently hasnt happened at all with op’s techniques.

let me break this down. as someone with ocd and autism, you are making things drastically worse for your mom and patients. youre too direct, and these insidious themes of ableism are coming from your desire not to help people but to stop them. your mother is printing too much so you address the fact that shes printing, not the reason she is printing. an autistic kid is is stimming so you address the fact that theyre stimming, not what is making them stim (do you work for aba or something???), and etc. etc.

you take away what fills compulsions and lets kids stim and makes a self conscious kid feel safe? youre literally fueling more compulsions and stimming and low self esteem by wrenching the last resort for feeling safe out of the hands of someone. thats fucking disgusting.

youre not helping anyone, youre helping yourself. get the hell away from autistic/mentally ill people.

I’ve broken the printer so she would stop printing useless documents to help soothe her anxiety instead of having faith (that last one was because she was making me run out of ink).

(that last one was because she was making me run out of ink).

Kinda telling, isn’t it? OP didn’t give a FUCK about their mother, they cared more about running of printer ink that about their mother’s wellbeing, and then rationalized it as being ‘for her own good’. Disgusting.

“I’m a behavioral therapist now listen about how I abuse my mother and kids”

I couldn’t even read the whole post holy shit…. this is terrifying?

This is the worst post I’ve ever read. This person needs to lose their medical license asap. Do they think this is a normal way for a therapist to treat a patient? I’ve seen a hell of a lot of child/youth therapists and none, not even the bad ones, forceful took away people’s ways of soothing themselves. Hell, the majority I’ve seen kept stim toys in their office because they lived their patients and wanted them to be comfortable and able to talk openly.