sapphic-giraffic:

transgooglesearches:

how to be okay when I see my deadname

real talk tho, i actually have a strategy for this. it was my wife’s idea. the key is to change your default association with the name. that way, instead of automatically thinking of it as your deadname, you think of it as something else’s name, ideally something you like.

what I did was start a new game on Pokémon Omega Ruby and give my starter, mudkip, my deadname. after many hours of play time, whenever i hear or see my deadname, i think of my beloved mudkip, now grown into a handsome, strong swampert.

if pokémon isn’t ur thing, i think the same strategy could be adapted to a pet or a stuffed animal. just a thought.